Marital disagreements can range from money, sex, in-laws, children, and household responsibilities. Many couples believe that if they argue about these things they're automatically headed for divorce. Conflict doesn't have to ruin relationships, you can carve your future together by how you deal with your issues.
God didn't make a mistake when he included anger as part of our emotional make-up; but He does wants us to handle it right (Ephesians 4:26 ) If it feels like marital disagreements are eroding your marriage it's time to think, listen, and calm down before you react.
(1) Think about your history together.
Chances are you started out as good friends. So ask yourself how you'd treat your best friend if you were having relationship issues. Not by being critical and defensive, right? What initially attracted you to one another anyhow? When did you fall in love? How did you act when things were good? Recall and rehearse your best moments.
(2) Listen and keep your thoughts focused on what God can do.
Zero in on your mate's best qualities, then start believing that God can turn your relationship around. Remember, you have more ability than you realize to change your perception of your partner. So concentrate on all the things in your marriage that are "of good report" (Philippians 4:8)
(3) Calm down and start building thoughtful behaviors back into your relationship.
List some of the things you know would make your spouse happy. Be specific. For example, hugging your husband when he comes home from work after a hard day, or helping your wife with the laundry. Show you care! Inject consideration back into your relationship.
(4) React by viewing your partner through God's eyes.
Trying to love others like God loves you is a good rule for all your relationships, not just marriage. And if you don't love yourself, start by remembering what God says about you: that you're blessed… loved… valued… and wonderfully made.
May... God... give you a spirit of unity.
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Every day I get up and thank God for Betty. I know she is the most fantastic person in the world because she hasn't thrown me out yet.